Toxicity isn't binary. Most people have some toxic habits under stress. The key is whether you use them consistently as a pattern. Common signs: you dismiss your partner's feelings, you give silent treatment, you call them names, you control who they see, or you make everything their fault. Try the tool to get an objective analysis of your specific situation.
Gaslighting is when someone makes you doubt your own perception of reality. Phrases like "that never happened", "you're imagining things", "you're crazy", or "you're too sensitive" are classic gaslighting. The goal is to make you question your own memory and judgment so the gaslighter can maintain control.
Dr. John Gottman identified four communication patterns that predict relationship failure: criticism (attacking the person, not the issue), contempt (superiority, name-calling), defensiveness (counter-attacking instead of listening), and stonewalling (shutting down, silent treatment). Toxic Verdict scans for these patterns plus additional ones like surveillance and isolation.
Toxic Verdict uses a local deterministic algorithm — not an AI API. It scans your words for 30+ toxic communication patterns in English and Chinese, identifies who said what, and splits the toxicity score between you and your partner. It quotes your own words back as evidence. Your text is never stored or sent anywhere.
Stonewalling is when someone refuses to engage in communication. Examples: giving the silent treatment for days, saying "I don't want to talk about it", "whatever", or physically walking away during conflicts. It makes the other person feel invisible and is one of Gottman's Four Horsemen.
Yes. Checking your partner's phone, messages, or location without consent is a surveillance pattern. The excuse "if you have nothing to hide, what's the problem?" is itself a manipulation — it shifts the blame from the person violating privacy to the person whose privacy was violated.
毒性不是非黑即白的。大多数人在压力下都会有一些有毒行为。关键在于你是否把这些行为当作一种持续的模式。常见信号：你否定对方的感受、你用冷战惩罚对方、你用侮辱性词语、你控制对方的社交。试试这个工具，它会分析你的具体情况并给出客观诊断。